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<P>As a former expatriate, I left the USA back in 1990 to fuel a vision of ideology and served in the Israeli army for almost two and a half years. When that finished, I built my dreams of becoming a writer so high up, they became unreachable. I quickly forgot about them and became a teacher instead unregrettably. Now, as a mother, I have returned to a different part of the United States than my native New York City, and am <A class="" href="http://www.spongefish.com/creations/1767-The-101-Basics-of-Taking-Time-Off-from-Work/steps/1" mce_href="/creations/1767-The-101-Basics-of-Taking-Time-Off-from-Work/steps/1">taking time off </A>from teaching, still an immigrant looking around, still trying to fit into American society. There are times when I wish life was easier linguistically, culturally and socially.</P>
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<P>Even on uncertain roads such as these, a person needs to be his or her own life coach. Self-help books are abound more than ever, but it's important to rely upon yourself and learn how to become unstuck from those sticky and tricky areas that keep you from springing upward. Becoming unstuck from habits of thought is the first step in reaching greater understanding. When I first thought I wasn't cut out to become a writer, I knew I was not only doubting my dreams but feeding into fear and insecurity. This is common among many adults who are at similar crossroads and realize that the habits of thoughts they relied upon from childhood no longer serve them. Like myself, I realize it is time to deal with the insecurity.</P>
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<P>I read many posts of mothers who make decisions exactly on this same insecurity. They wait for their kids to grow up, for the mortage to be paid, for the money to come in. Some will sacrifice their happiness and feed into their insecurities and follow just a basic agenda without discovering their own power of self-help. Becoming your own life coach is the best gift you can possibly give yourself and the major underlying reasoning for it stems from:</P>
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<LI>A need to develop more self-esteem and confidence</LI>
<LI>Learning how to accept and love yourself</LI></UL>
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<P>Becoming a life coach is a serious emotional endeavor. It is breaking free of those emotional constrictions that controlled you as a child which legitimized your existence of being. As an adult however, it involves unlearning certain habits of thought and behavior that were learned as children. All along, children convinced themselves that this was the safe emotional route to go. For example, a child may believe that she isn't good enough because her mother did not have time to tell her a bedtime story. In time, this translates into a lack of self-worth, which the then grown adult will eventually reinforce over again by lying, and playing with defense mechanisms. </P>
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<P>Many of the self-help books found in your local bookstore cross these exact psychological underpinnings that are 'born' in childhood. The workplace and modern life are full of these symptoms of modern day phenomena: how to achieve a 'quick' scale happiness, how to bring harmony to your family, how to become better in business dealing. But wouldn't it be nice to know you have your own tools to become your own life coach?</P>
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<P>There are no quick fixes to becoming your own life coach but you can learn today how to establish an inner dialogue with yourself that can and will allow you to make better choices and decisions. Some few important first steps:</P>
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<P>1. Accept ALL situations you are in (or were) even if they are ones that you did not choose. </P>
<P>2. Accept the fact that you are not patient and accepting of yourself. Pushing rejection aside warrants those negative feelings to control you.</P>
<P>3. Every little acceptance has its 'contradiction'. Try to listen to the contradiction and observe it from afar. Distancing yourself is an important first step.</P>
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